Repost: Unsent

Do you remember the Alanis Morissette song “Unsent”? I love the song – but I love the video even more…if you don’t remember it, please take a look at it and really watch it:

dear matthew I like you a lot I realize you’re in a relationship 
with someone right now and I respect
that I would like you to know that if you’re ever single 
in the future and you want to come visit me in california 
I would be open to spending time with you and finding 
out how old you were when you wrote your first song 

dear jonathan I liked you too much I used to be attracted to boys 
who would lie to me and think solely about themselves and you 
were plenty self-destructive for my taste at the time I used to say 
the more tragic the better the truth is whenever I think of the early 90’s 
your face comes up with a vengeance like it was yesterday 

dear terrance I love you muchly you’ve been nothing 
but open hearted and emotionally available and supportive 
and nurturing and consummately there for me I kept drawing you in 
and pushing you away I remember how beautiful it was to fall asleep 
on your couch and cry in front of you for the first time you 
were the best platform from which to jump beyond myself what 
was wrong with me 

dear marcus you rocked my world you had a charismatic way 
about you with the women and you got me
seriously thinking about spirituality and you wouldn’t let me get away 
with kicking my own ass but I could never really feel relaxed and looked out 
for around you though and that stopped us from going any further 
than we did and it’s kinda too bad becasue we could’ve had much more fun 

dear lou we learned so much I realize we won’t be able to talk for some time 
and I understand that as I do you
the long distance thing was the hardest and we did as well as we could 
we were together during a very tumultuous time
in our lives I will always have your back and be curious about you 
about your career about your whereabouts



Isn’t it fantastic? I think the concept of the song (and the video) is really great – writing letters to all of those you’ve loved in your life, explaining what they meant to you, and what you took away from them – but not sending it. I love that. The men that she mentions in the video – Matthew, Jonathan, Terrence, Marcus, and Lou – are characters that I am sure pretty much every one can relate to: Matthew, the guy that you think would be perfect for you, but he’s already involved with someone; Jonathan, the self-absorbed bad boy that you know you should get the hell away from, yet you can’t tear yourself away from him no matter how hard you try; Terrence, the really great, kind, nice guy that you know that you should want to be with, but you’re not mature enough yet to be with the good guy (you’re too busy chasing the arsehole Jonathans of the world); Marcus, the somewhat-mystical manwhore who expands your world and introduces you to all sorts of new experiences while messing with your mind royally at the same time; and finally, Lou, the good person that you tried really hard with but circumstances beyond your control shattered the fragile egg of your relationship, thus ending it for good. Do any of these people sound familiar to you? I’m sure they do – I know I’ve encountered my share of them throughout my life! I think that this song is so heartfelt and so beautiful – and I love that it’s a series of letters that remain unsent, as if the cathartic act of writing them is enough. Do you ever do that – write things to people and then not send them? I’m famous for this – my reason is quite simple: I write things in the heat of the moment (keeping in mind that I have NO filter whatsoever – shocker, I know), and thankfully I have learned not to send my word vomit until I’ve had time to reflect and think, and make sure that I really REALLY want to say what I’ve written – that way, if I have second thoughts, I can just hit “delete” and all will be okay. I’m pretty sure that this strategy has kept me out of jail and/or the psychiatric ward on many occasions 🙂

If you were going to take a walk backwards in time to write letters to those you have loved, who would you reach out to and why? 🙂 I would love to know if there are people out there who would send me letters… 😉



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