What I Am

I did one of those personality test things last evening (I was bored, and my mood was appallingly foul…I was trying to cheer myself up, and perhaps find out that despite evidence to the contrary, I am NOT a total jackass all the time). The test I did can be found here – I was in no way prepared for the accuracy of the results. This is friggin’ frightening.


According to this instrument, I am an ENFJ person: Extroverted, iNtuition, Feeling, Judging…they called me a Giver (heh heh – I’m a giver) (never mind).

ENFJs are people-focused individuals. They live in the world of people possibilities. More so than any other type, they have excellent people skills. They understand and care about people, and have a special talent for bringing out the best in others. ENFJ’s main interest in life is giving love, support, and a good time to other people. They are focused on understanding, supporting, and encouraging others. They make things happen for people, and get their best personal satisfaction from this.

Because ENFJ’s people skills are so extraordinary, they have the ability to make people do exactly what they want them to do. They get under people’s skins and get the reactions that they are seeking. ENFJ’s motives are usually unselfish, but ENFJs who have developed less than ideally have been known to use their power over people to manipulate them.

ENFJ’s are so externally focused that it’s especially important for them to spend time alone. This can be difficult for some ENFJs, because they have the tendency to be hard on themselves and turn to dark thoughts when alone. Consequently, ENFJs might avoid being alone, and fill their lives with activities involving other people. 


The ENFJ may feel quite lonely even when surrounded by people. This feeling of aloneness may be exacerbated by the tendency to not reveal their true selves.

People love ENFJs. They are fun to be with, and truly understand and love people. They are typically very straight-forward and honest. Usually ENFJs exude a lot of self-confidence, and have a great amount of ability to do many different things. They are generally bright, full of potential, energetic and fast-paced. They are usually good at anything which captures their interest.

In the work place, ENFJs do well in positions where they deal with people. They are naturals for the social committee. Their uncanny ability to understand people and say just what needs to be said to make them happy makes them naturals for counseling. They enjoy being the center of attention, and do very well in situations where they can inspire and lead others, such as teaching.


ENFJs do not like dealing with impersonal reasoning. They don’t understand or appreciate its merit, and will be unhappy in situations where they’re forced to deal with logic and facts without any connection to a human element. Living in the world of people possibilities, they enjoy their plans more than their achievements. They get excited about possibilities for the future, but may become easily bored and restless with the present.

In general, ENFJs are charming, warm, gracious, creative and diverse individuals with richly developed insights into what makes other people tick. This special ability to see growth potential in others combined with a genuine drive to help people makes the ENFJ a truly valued individual. As giving and caring as the ENFJ is, they need to remember to value their own needs as well as the needs of others.


ENFJs generally have the following traits:

Genuinely and warmly interested in people
Value people’s feelings
Value structure and organization
Value harmony, and good at creating it
Exceptionally good people skills
Dislike impersonal logic and analysis
Strong organizational capabilities
Loyal and honest
Creative and imaginative
Enjoy variety and new challenges
Get personal satisfaction from helping others
Extremely sensitive to criticism and discord
Need approval from others to feel good about themselves

The following list of professions is built on our impressions of careers which would be especially suitable for an ENFJ. It is meant to be a starting place, rather than an exhaustive list. There are no guarantees that any or all of the careers listed here would be appropriate for you, or that your best career match is among those listed here.

Possible Career Paths for the ENFJ: Facilitator / Consultant / Psychologist / Social Worker / Counselor / Teacher / Clergy / Sales Representative / Human Resources /Manager / Events Coordinator / Sales Representative / Politicians / Diplomats/Writers


Hmm. What do you think, guys? Does this sound like me? I kind of think it might! Who knew that I fit so neatly into one category??! According to statistics, only 3% of the American population fits this personality type…which is likely why I rarely find someone that I can connect with – there aren’t too many of us weirdos around! I find the list of possible career paths to be highly amusing – teacher, check; manager, check; human resources, kind of check; events coordinator, check check; writer, wanna-be check…I would say that I am pretty much where I belong. Huh. Who knew???! 🙂


What’s your personality type? Do you believe in this or is a bunch of hooey to you? (SIDENOTE – what is hooey? Just wondering.) I can’t wait to hear your thoughts!! 🙂





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