Love is strange, you know that? Think about it – what do you find attractive in the object of your affection? Is it their smile? Their eyes? That ass when they bend over? (If so, it is clear that it is not me that you’re in lust with) Their sparkling personality and dry sense of humor? What is it that draws us to others? (And they to us?)
There are some people in this world that we can all pretty much agree are totally fancy-able…I’m looking in your direction, Ryan Gosling and George Clooney! 😉 However, it’s the real life couples that I personally find fascinating, don’t you? Think about the couples you know – do they go together? Does the pairing of them make sense to you? In a lot of cases, you’ll probably say yes – but I’m fairly certain that you know at least one couple that has you scratching your head…either their personalities are a total mismatch (he’s super personable and fun, and she’s an absolute bitch with only ugliness in her heart, or he’s mighty handsome and a nice guy while she is unattractive both inside and out). It just boggles the mind.
Do you ever wonder what it is about you that others find attractive? I absolutely do – I rarely feel like anyone truly knows me and is actually qualified to be attracted to me, so I wonder what it is that they think they see. I know that I’m not much to look at, but I think (hope) that my personality kinda sorta makes up for it (kinda). I think that my mind is by far my best quality – but most people don’t take the time to appreciate my brain. The truth is that most men seem to be afraid of chicks with brains, which is completely and utterly dumb. I remember going out with a guy years ago who asked me once to keep my crazy competitiveness under wraps at a pub trivia with his coworkers because he didn’t want to beat his boss’s team, plus he didn’t want his coworkers to mock him for being on a team with a smarty-pants and mooching off my brains. I was so pissed – first, what a dumb thing to say…and, secondly, anybody who knows even a wee bit about me knows that I take trivia very seriously….and I do not lose. What a jackass. I wonder where he is now? Probably miserable. Hope so. 😉
My point with this little stroll down memory lane is that if the dude from that story knew me even a teensy bit, he’d have known better than to insult me like that. This is the kind of nonsense that makes me say that I feel so few people know me at all – on the one hand, that’s probably really sad, but…maybe, on the other hand, it’s not so bad. While I find it scary as hell when people see inside of me and actually get me, it also generally means that they have made the effort, and that they get it…and that is awesome. Too bad more people don’t – it’s a liberating feeling, don’t you think? 🙂
So…back to my original question: what do you find attractive in others? For me, I’m drawn in by someone smart, with an excellent sense of humor. I like those that are ambitious, who constantly seek to better themselves and the world around them, and have an insatiable thirst for knowledge. I’m not into lazy people (ick), nor do I like those that are unkind. How about you, friends? What makes your heart go pitter-patter?
I came across a great article today entitled “15 Ways to be Irresistibly Attractive” – I would like to be irresistible,wouldn’t you???! Here’s what the article had to say:
Be true to your values. Be honest. Do your best. Do things that bring you closer to your dreams. Take care of yourself, your family, and your friends. Treat people with respect. Be the person that makes others feel special. Be known for your kindness and honesty.
In other words, invest love into your life. Because when you love life, life will love you back. And there’s no attraction greater than love. People will notice the goodness surrounding you, and they will be naturally attracted to you.
- Do the right thing. – Never be afraid to do what you know in your heart is right, especially if the well being of another person’s feelings is at stake. There is no punishment in the world more severe than the wounds we inflict on our soul when we do what we know is wrong.
- Stop the gossip and superficial judgments. – Great minds discuss ideas, average minds discuss events, and small minds gossip about people. Life is much too short to be lived talking about people, gossiping, and stirring up trouble that has no substance. If you don’t understand someone, ask questions. If you don’t agree with them, tell them. But don’t judge them behind their back to everyone else.
- Lift others up. – If you want to lift yourself up, lift someone else up. To be happy and free is not merely to cast off one’s chains, but to live in a way that respects and enhances the happiness and freedom of others. When you put faith, hope, and love together, you can nurture positive ideas, relationships, and dreams in a negative world.
- Give words of encouragement to those in need. – A word of encouragement during a failure is worth more than an hour of praise after success. We all hit a time when we lose hope and need someone to put their arms around us and say, “I’ve got you right now. You are not facing this alone.” Be that person when you can.
- Be positive. – Think positively; speak properly; apologize rapidly; forgive quickly. Evolve your being and inspire yourself and others. Say it out loud, “I am sorry negativity, I have no time for you. I have far too many positive things to do.”
- Embrace your uniqueness. – If you don’t embrace your uniqueness, you will spend your entire life striving to conform to the impossibility of being someone else. By celebrating what makes you different, rather than wasting time trying to be the same, you will discover your unique gifts that nobody else in the world has.
- Do things for fun and passion. – When you stop doing things for fun and passion, you stop living and you start merely existing. If you truly want to change your life, you must first change your mind and your actions. Once you are ready to truly devote your time and energy to what calls to your soul, you will find your life unimaginably enriched.
- Be gentle. – When you least expect it, something great will come along – something better than you ever planned for. Mother Nature opens millions of flowers every day without forcing the buds. Let this be a reminder not to force anything, but to simply give beautiful things enough love and an opportunity to grow naturally.
- Drop the need to always be right. – Someone else doesn’t have to be wrong for you to be right. There are many roads to what’s right. You cannot judge others by your own past. They are living a different life than you. Express your opinions freely and politely, remembering that if your purpose is to ridicule or prove others are wrong, it will only bring bitterness into the world. Respecting the opinion of others, without judging, always carries more weight than simply being right.
- Be loyal. Be honest. – You can’t promise to love someone for the rest of their life, but you can sincerely love them for the rest of yours. When it comes to relationships, remaining faithful is never an option, but a priority. Loyalty and honest affection mean everything.
- Be flexible and keep an open mind. – What looks like an obstacle or road block is oftentimes just life steering you in a better direction. Be flexible and keep an open mind to all the changes that are forcing you to grow, and helping you better align yourself with your vibration and purpose.
- Believe in yourself and all that you are. – Know in your heart that there is strength inside you that is greater than the challenges you face. No one can do it for you – you have to choose to use your wings.
- Believe in your dreams. – Who you hope to be someday is already a big part of who you are now. Your dreams are real. They do not exist in the past; they live in the present, and when you stay committed to doing what needs to be done, you carry them closer to reality as you walk through the gates of tomorrow.
- Walk the talk. – You can make whatever you want out of your life, but first you have to not be afraid to try. We all have to start with ourselves. It is time to walk the talk. Take the journey of making the difficult decisions and taking action. Start removing things from your life that are taking away your happiness, and start adding things that bring joy in to your life.
- Embrace the possibilities of tomorrow. – Don’t let your past dictate who you are, but let it be part of who you will become. No regrets. No looking back. Just hold onto life and move forward. We have no way of knowing what lies ahead, but that’s what makes the journey even more exciting – that’s what makes life worth living.
Isn’t this an AMAZING list? I know – LOOOOOVE!!! I think there are some really fantastic points on this list – and things that I really, truly believe with all my heart. Let’s see how we can apply some of these ideas and practices to our lives, shall we? Just imagine how bloody attractive we’ll all be!!!! 😉
Hubba hubba!!!! 🙂